Wednesday, January 20, 2010
But What About Socialization????
I was scrapbooking with a group of teachers, primarily. They found out I homeschool, and asked a couple of questions. You know, how are you going to teach chemistry? (my oldest was only 9, maybe, at the time... my answer: I have no idea, but I'm pretty sure I have a few years yet to figure out which of the many resources out there will work for that), what about the prom? is it legal? and then... the question. But what about socialization?
I looked at them, with my most serious expression, you know, like they had just stumped me, and I said something like:
You know, socialization is a big problem. Homeschooling is a big commitment, and it means that my kids are almost always around. If they were in school, I could get together with friends for coffee much more easily, or meet someone for lunch, or head out shopping with a pal. It would be easier to call up a friend and chat on the phone. But I've been coming to these crops most months, so that is giving me at least one social outlet...
Long pause as I looked in mock surprise at the confusion on their faces, then I continued...
Oh! You mean their social lives? Yeah, well, that isn't a problem. They don't have to go to school to playact how to interact with people in the real world... they actually get to interact with real people every time we go out. We don't have to do social studies lessons to learn what a mail carrier does... my kids get packages from the mail lady and go to the post office for real. They've joined scouts and get to interact with people there, mostly in their own age groups, so they are even getting an idea as to what age-segregation is like.
They don't have a socialization problem. I do.
But it is a sacrifice I am willing to make...
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I LOVE that response!
I love it! Excellent!
Brilliant! I have been asked this TWICE this week. I mostly fumble around like an idiot. What I don't get is how every.single.person. comes up with the question - is there some Warning! If You Encounter A Homeschooler, This Is What To Do! memo that goes out to public-schoolers that has that question at the top?
"Today class, we are going to cover what to do in a fire, a flood, if you meet a homeschooler, and other natural diasters...."
That is great! I wish I could have seen their faces.
Thanks! My husband was a bit shocked when I told him about it... he always accuses me of thinking the perfect responses, but not saying them. Somehow, this was exactly the response I needed that time though. And Heidi, their response was fun. I think I made a couple of them think a bit anyway.
Deb -- yeah, somehow I always seem to get questions like this all at once. You know, like it is a mass talking-point email sent out to everyone. "Okay, people, this week, accost any homeschooler you know and ask them about socialization. Next week, we'll pick on someone else." At least I assume they pick on someone else.
I don't know, maybe I'm just caring less about what other people think now. I made a snarky response to a grocery store clerk a couple trips ago... something like, "Oh, yeah, you're right. Where else could they possibly learn to stand in line..."
I absolutely LOVE this and I'm going to tuck it away as a fiery response the next time I get asked this question...LOL!!!
Love it! What a perfect answer! Nobody else can top that one. I'm not even going to try. But, I am going to post my answer to the question, too, just because I'm desperate for blog content! LOL
Marvelous Debra! Absolutely brilliant :)
I agree, best answer I've heard. LOVE IT!!!!! :-D
Hey! I thought I commented on this:)Just wanted to say this post TOTALLY made my day. Very funny--and true. I was thinking about when we were little (5 kids in my family when i was little, also) I remember my Mom giving up stuff to hang out with us. And now, she has a very busy social life and will easily cancel someone else to be with one of us:) All too soon, we'll be having coffee with our kids!
Echoing all the other responses you have gotten ~ this IS great! *Ü*
Thanks everyone! I smile each time I see a comment in this thread!! I worried that I was being too glib in my response to the question. But all my serious posts didn't work...
You make me glad I was nudged to write this one.
Oh, I was going to make that point too! LOL But now with co-op and getting to my friends house once a week, I actually get to socialize now too! :)
Absolutely brilliant!! I am still laughing at your response. What a great reply to such a repeatedly annoying question. I'm tucking that one in for safe-keeping!!
Excellent response! Very well done!
Good for you!
Here when people find out our kids are homeschooled they often smile at me and tell the kids, "Boy, you're lucky," or something like that. We are so blessed!
What a great answer! and SO TRUE!! :->
Fellow TOS Crew Member,
Oh I LOVE this answer! I will be using it in the future!
Perfect answer! I might have to borrow this one if anyone ever asks me about socialization.
Excellent. Yes, our social life "suffers" some, but theirs doesn't. Cheers to you!
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